Thank you for the advice regarding Olivia. Actually what Amy recommended has helped. What I have been doing is when Olivia wants me to do something for her and if I am holding Stella I will say to Stella "Ok, I need to help Olivia get dressed, she needs me right now" and I can see Olivia look at me and feel reassured. I will then lay Stella down wherever we are and help Olivia do what she needs me to do. Or if Olivia wants me to get something for her ie she wants to watch a movie...she's always enjoyed putting the movies in the dvd player herself, but lately she wants me to do it. Well, I've found it has helped when she does want me to put the dvd in I will say to her "you put it in and I will turn the tv on" or something along those lines. I don't want her to lose her independence, but at the same time I don't want her to feel like I am ignoring her every request.
Its taking some time, but I do see it is getting better day by day. I also try to look at myself and what I am doing and how it will make Olivia feel. I feel like I have come down too hard on her at times and I am trying to re-evaluate myself and how I can make things smoother for all of us.
I do have to remind myself Olivia is only 3. I can't expect her to be any more mature than a 3 year old.
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