Friday, December 4, 2009
Need Some Reassurance
I am signed up on Baby Center's website for February 2007 babies and June 2010 babies. I read different posts on what expectant mom's are going through and I like to see if I can relate to anything they are experiencing. Well, a lot of the posts talk about miscarriage and what to look for etc...I have not experienced any type of painful cramping (except round ligament stretching) or bleeding, so I guess its apparent I have not had a miscarriage. What scares me is that I have read a couple posts about a missed miscarriage. Most of the time the mother goes in for a routine appointment and no heartbeat is found, followed by an ultrasound confirming the baby had stopped growing at x amount of weeks. I just read a girl's post who said she still had morning sickness, her belly was growing, and her boobs were sore, but she had a missed miscarriage. Scares me half to death. What if that would be me? I see my doc again on the 14th, so it's just a little over a week away, but I don't know what I would do if that were to be me in that position. I rented a heart doppler when I was pregnant w/Olivia and I was looking online tonight and I am thinking about renting another one. I don't know if I am nervous because I didn't hear the heartbeat when I saw my doctor the last time and I couldn't see it on the ultrasound screen either. I just want some reassurance that everything is ok with my baby. I think I have felt little kicks here and there, but what if it isn't? What if it's all wishful thinking (or feeling) however when I have felt it, I get a feeling that comes over me like my body is telling me YES, that is the baby. Am I overreacting??? I try to avoid the forums, but I get a daily e-mail on current posts and I always read them. I guess I shouldn't and take care of me and my baby.
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Quit reading those posts!!!! Seriously, those message boards got me so worked up when I was pregnant too. Plus, your doctor saw the heartbeat and said it was good at your ultrasound, and the chances of a miscarriage after a heartbeat is confirmed goes down to like 2 percent or something very small. I wouldn't worry about it - you are far enough along now to quit worrying about it. Missed miscarriage is rare too - if you were to have one, you would know it. Believe me - I've had two and I definitely knew it both times. Besides all of that - what is worrying going to do? It's not going to change the outcome no matter what - right? You're very sick and that is a sign that hcg is strong. I don't think you have anything to worry about at all!!!!
I completely agree with Amy. Those boards are horrible to read while you are pregnant.
Know that you and this baby are in God's care and that he is watching over all of you!
If the doppler would make you feel better, go for it, but if it would become and obsessive thing, I wouldn't do it.
I always seemed to meet the weirdos out in public that felt the need to share things like that with me when I was obviously pregnant. It always gave me major anxiety! I know how stressful that can be, but the best thing to do is just relax.
Love ya!
Well, as i do have a little bit of expertise in this area, I think it's very safe to say that if you've made it to 12 weeks, you're going to be just fine. Yes, there are still pregnancy symptoms with a missed miscarriage, and yes, it does just stop growing at some certain point, but it usually only takes about a week for things to "happen" after that. But, these usually happen earlier in the pregnancy. If your doctor saw the heartbeat last time, then you are most likely still fine.
Hang in there and stop reading the scary stuff!
I think we all go through those scary times. We all need reassurance. You'll get it on the 14th and feel better. I would avoid reading all those post, they can only scare you. I am sure you will be fine and that precious little baby too!!
I am so sorry that you are so worried. Here is the deal with all those message boards. I learned this the hard way when we didn't have all the answers for Sawyer's bowel disease.
People in distress or who have gotten bad news or have a reason to believe things are going badly are the ones on the message boards.
You don't hear about perfectly fine pregnancies on the message board because most people expect that and don't have a reason to vent, ask a lot of questions or seek a ton of support online. It is when they have a problem or concern that they go there and that is why you are seeing so much of that.
Try and think in a positive way and hold on to GOD! He will bring that baby safely to you and your husband and O.
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